LOVE

THE EOMMA TALKS – TOPIC ON ‘LOVE’

Thank you for taking time to join me @theeommatalks, where we look at the spiritual side of modern living using the lessons & teachings found in the bible to encourage listeners to discover foundational & powerful principles. If you are joining me for the first time, please know that each time I refer to God, I mean Yahweh, as this is the name God asked that He be called.

As I mentioned in my previous blogs & podcasts, I have learnt most of the topics I will be discussing through personal life experiences and as you know, life experience is often not polite or embellished so I will talk from my heart, particularly as I know it will be more beneficial. I have chosen to start with foundational truths and when you understand this truth, you can apply the principles in the challenging areas of your life. I do believe that the best treatments are those that target the source and not just the symptoms.

All sustainable systems are born out of vision: the creation of the world was born out of God’s vision, Governments, Organisations and businesses, employees support the mission/goals of their employer, so why do we base relationships and marriage on love and not vision? The topic today is ‘love’.

The literature, definition and interpretation of love is plentiful but most often they come short of our real-life experiences. We use words such as ‘I love you’ or ‘I am into you’ or ‘you are the one for me’ to create romance. And people move on to justify their use of these words with reasons such as, I love you because you are cute, sexy, generous, kind, beautiful, handsome, classy, cool, tall etc. These reasons become the foundation of their love.

But if you love someone because of certain qualities they have displayed, what will happen to your love if the person goes through a traumatic experience and their personality or physical appearance alters. Several examples come to mind, say for instance, your wife was a size 8 before childbirth and after child birth she struggles with weight problems. She eventually matures into a size 16. Another example: a situation where the object of your love is involved in a car accident and ends up speech impaired, disabled, mentally impaired or burnt in a fire incident. Invariably, your love is unprepared for this unforeseen disaster and may not be sufficiently grounded to withstand the change.

Love is not supposed to be hinged on reason or attributes. Love is not something you give because you are comfortable with giving it or because you feel like it at the time. For this reason, the bible tells us that you cannot love God if you do not love your fellow human being. This statement is hinged on the understanding that as you cannot see God, it will be extremely difficult to create good reasons to love Him. So, if you need reasons to love your neighbour, colleague or that boy or girl friend, you will equally need reason(s) to love God.

When we tell people, we love them for a reason, it means that you are exchanging the price of your love for the qualities or attributes you have found or like in them. Your love is not free and this is not love. No wonder relationships are breaking down as our love is for sale. In the past families were a unit they had a common goal, shared common values, and everybody simply accepted it and families did not need reasons to stay together. Today, it is different. People throw reason first to enable their decision as to whether or not to stick with their family. But family is important. I shall discuss family in another podcast in the future.

How much is your love worth? And what is the payoff you have received so far? The reason most people find philanthropy so fulfilling, for those who truly engage in it, is because of the principal of giving without receiving anything in return.

Love should not be the basis for friendship, family or marriage. You are already love, so you have it to give; especially when it comes to marriage. Your search in life should not dwell on love. Love is already all around you but you are not seeing this because you are looking for love in a particular person. What you should be looking for is a friend or life partner that you share the same vision with. You need someone that you identify with vision wise. As you are partnering with this person in order to support, grow or live that vision. Please be clear, that it is you willingly giving the support to grow this person and it is not about you searching to see how they will support your own vision. It is non-transactional. It is a partnership of giving, giving, giving. The only love at play is the principal of love your neighbour as you love yourself.

If you are a woman or a man and you are looking for someone to live and share life with, what you are looking for is not someone you love. We are all love, we embody love. When you search for that someone, simply ask yourself if you identify with that person’s vision. Do you know where they are headed and can you give them the support they need to get to their destination without being a hindrance or faltering along the way. Do you know yourself well enough to understand your own vision and how it fits to the other person’s life? Are you willing to give without asking for anything in return because you may not get anything in return from this partnership? Remember two horses tied together facing different directions cannot move away from their position except one agrees to change position.

When assessing your intended partnership, this person should have no reason for wanting to be with you. Not for your personality or even your character. By learning to be your true identity, loving will become more meaningful and less painful. Continuously say ‘I am love’ to yourself every day. This will help you put things into the right perspective. Like the biblical brothers Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, you can go through fire and survive it if you understand your identity and how to operate this principle.

You cannot put a price on your love, it is priceless and if you give your whole self away you are damned if it gets into the wrong hands. Most priceless objects are not sold in the open market. Do not undervalue yourself by selling love to a particular person, you will be placing them on a pedestal that you have created for your reasons and it will be unfair to judge them on this basis.

Give your love freely to all and accept love freely from all. Seek vision that align with yours and you will make a beautiful life story. They last.

As always, remember, you cannot change people but you can change how you perceive and respond to things. Love is part of your identity and you should not struggle to reflect such a beautiful thing. God is love, in the book of John 3:16 it is written:

“God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.”

This bible verse carries God’s love and assurance of an eternal life after death so choose to believe it. It is impossible to change from a position of disbelief. Ask yourself, what have you got to lose: absolutely nothing, but your ego.

Live life with the right understanding of love and it will be impossible to remain in the same position. I thank you and love you with the love of God.

EOMMA

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